May 7th, 2007 at 10:52 am
We were sitting towards the back of the church on Sunday, prepared for the necessity of escorting a child out of church with a minimum of distraction to everyone else.
Matins was preceded by the baptisms of two children, one about seven and the other about eleven, by my guess. Baptism are cool to watch.
My poor shorter and more vocal daughter tried to get a glimpse. I even let her stand on my lap for a little bit, when to my horror, she blurted out, “he’s not doing it like they do in the real church.”
After I reassured her that these were good, too, I realized what she was talking about. Easter Saturday we had been watching the Easter Mass in the Vatican, where the Pope had baptized adults and children representing all the continents. Pope Benedict sprinkled water on the baptized heads, while Pastor Gau wet his hand and pressed his palm to the children’s foreheads. So long as there is water and the Word, baptizing in the name of the Triune God as scripturally understood, the rest is secondary.
As my other daughter got a little noisy and needed to go to the “cry room,” my first daughter wanted to go with Dad and sister, and I felt a little guilty. Someone who is smart enough to take an interest in rubrics should be allowed to watch them, instead of being told to sit down and be quiet. Now, if she would just whisper…
The cry room in our building is at the back of the sanctuary and has good intentions — large glass windows allow an open view of the sanctuary, and Pastor Gau’s microphone is broadcast in. It until recently had a pew in it, but there are too many kids in it now. The kids who are there just to play end up being a distraction for my kids. Logistical issues keep us from Sunday School, so church has to be a time when my family hears the Word of God. When we go back, I take a hymnal and a bulletin, and we participate as best we can. I probably look like a pietist, but we didn’t drive 35 miles just for play time.
I suppose in a perfect world there would be a typical play room for those who have no interest in participation, and a “cry room” or a “training room” for those who wish to participate without distracting everyone else. It would probably also be better if the training room were actually near the chancel, perhaps to the side, where youthful Christians can watch what is going on and obtain a healthy appreciation for it. Throw in a back door where parents can sneak in and out, and we’d be all set.
Something to think about should I come into extreme wealth. ![]()

May 7th, 2007 at 11:41 am
I make it my practice to invite the smaller, younger children to sit either in front of the font or in the front pew when I baptize someone. That way they too get a front row seat and don’t have to crane their neck or stand on the lap of a parent.
I stole this from one of my childhood pastors. It’s received rave reviews wherever I’ve gone!
May 7th, 2007 at 12:37 pm
Trinity Lutheran Church in Memphis, TN has a cry room to the side of the chancel with the entrance in the back. It’s a very nice setup.
May 7th, 2007 at 1:57 pm
In a perfect world, the children would remain in the nave! When I was a kid, the “cry room” was used for beatings. We stayed in the sanctuary unless we were receiving the threatened spank…oh, and Mother would change diapers in the cry room and come right back in.
However, my kids spend too much time in the nursery. Since I’m working, and my wife is in the loft playing organ, we have to depend on the good graces of members to sit with our small children for the first service then they play at the second.
But I wish to comment on the “real church” phenomena. Do you know why she referred to the Vatican as “real?”
May 7th, 2007 at 2:14 pm
But I wish to comment on the “real church” phenomena. Do you know why she referred to the Vatican as “real?”
Pastor Hall, I have no idea. I’ve been thinking about that Easter Saturday, and I don’t remember any time or any reason why I would have said that was “real” church. I may have to write EWTN and see if they put subliminal messages in that broadcast.
I could hypothesize that the visual elements of the Mass itself communicated some sort of realness as she saw it, but that would merely play into my own biases. It is probably too late to ask her.
May 7th, 2007 at 3:50 pm
An update: my wife thought my daughter said “other” instead of “real.” That would make more sense.
May 8th, 2007 at 10:57 am
This is where technology is our friend. We have a digital video camera mounted above our baptismal font, this is a big help since it is in the entrance to the sanctuary, it allows us to project the video image up towards the front so people don’t have to twist themselves all around and it is higher up and easier for to see over peoples’ heads. Also, because we have a dvd recorder attached to the system we can give people a video record of the baptism.